An expected social behavior

The social behavior is a set of rules formal and informal that builds and enhances our relation with everyone be a closer person or a complete strange. We learn some patterns to face several situations like meet new people, attending a party, buy goods and various kinds of activities. But what happen when in your brain you know that this rules exists but your thoughts or certain activity overrides most of this rules.

Imagine that you meet a great companion in school that will bring benefits to both and that match in the planning of major projects. Imagine that projects start to materialize until an accident truncates everything.

But it's not that serious. the accident was a light one and my companion only needed one day in hospital for observation and discard serious injuries. The serious part came when I didn't visit him at the hospital. He complains about my attitude and from that day our relationship break apart, and to this very day I don't have any notice about him.

For a long time I felt guilty and was for some years one of those things that haunt you from time to time. In the sessions I took with my psychologist that topic not surfaced, but some like and what my psychologist recommended me was to deepen the event and begin to reduce the experience to gradually eliminate the feelings of guilt.

What I felt is was a very callous and cynical act that way, but in light of the symptoms of Asperger syndrome I realized that the act of going to visit my old friend represented to me a situation of a lot of stress, besides that reflecting on how I felt when he had the accident I realized it was not serious and that he would recover soon.

A person with Asperger assumed that everyone knows what one thinks, and that's what happened to me, I assumed that he knew I really worry myself and waited for his speedy recovery. The problem was that I did not say personally but later I tried to explain, without success.

Now I know I have not that feel guilty. I must learn to deal with the stress of social behavior, and in the case due communicate what I feel and think more effectively.